It’s worth taking time at the outset of your wedding planning to evaluate fully what it is that the two of you want for your wedding.

This might sound obvious, but it’s easy to become quickly surrounded by magazines and blogs, well meaning parents’ and siblings’ ideas and a whole host of assumptions about ‘wedding norms’.

So, you and your other half have made the big decision to tie the knot, you’re excited and you are beginning to envision your day.

This is the time for both of you to focus on your big vision for your day.

It’s also the best time to establish what each of you has in your minds when you imagine your day. If your ideas are very different, it’s much better to find out from the outset and work together to agree a shared vision, or perhaps two different parts, for your celebrations.

Taking the time to agree your big vision and answer the important questions together can help enormously further down the line if friends and family start to question your plans or ‘encourage’ you to do things differently.

You will feel much more secure and confident in your ability to explain not only what it is you both want, but the reasons behind those decisions.

This is very much a high level exercise. You want to consider the fundamentals, before you get into exactly which flowers or stationery style etc. you are looking for, so take some time dreaming, pinning or writing it all out …

What sort of ceremony do you want?

Will your wedding ceremony be a religious one, a civil one or something else again? Depending which country you live in, make sure you understand what you need to do to be ‘legally’ married, as this varies across the world.

Where in the world will you get married?

Will you marry where you live, where your parents live, where you grew up, in a destination country you love, and wherever you choose, why?

The answer to this question alone will help you shape the whole wedding. For example, if you choose a destination wedding the other side of the globe, the size of the wedding may be very different to what you might have done in your parents’ garden.

Who will be there?

Who will you invite? Think about who you really want at your wedding and why each of them is important to you.

Friends and family often have preconceived ideas about who ‘should’ be invited, so having a good idea of who you genuinely want there, and why, is important.

What will it look like?

This is the time to close your eyes and really start envisioning your day.

This will help you work out what sort of venue you desire and whether the décor will be sophisticated, funky, laid back, outdoorsy, etc.

Really importantly, what will it feel like?

Think about colours/ textures/ themes/ styles/ scents.

What will make the day yours – all about the two of you, so much so that your guests say ‘ah – that is sooooo them – I get it!’ ?

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