Know your Friends and Family

It is likely you will get lots of offers of help.

However, you will know who can be relied upon and what sorts of tasks each is most suited to.

For example:

  • Research into specific supplier types
  • Going through T&Cs
  • Physical tasks such as moving furniture, flower arrangements or guests on the day
  • Talents such as doing hair or make up

choosing your wedding team

Be honest with yourself about people’s strengths/ weaknesses

Think carefully about your friends and family, both those who have already offered to help and those you would love to involve.

It’s really important to appreciate that, in almost every case, anyone who has offered to help genuinely means it.

We all have people in our lives whom we love, but are simply not reliable in certain circumstances.

You can:

  • thank them but explain you have lots of people helping already, and/ or…
  • ask if they would do something else important instead such as be a witness or do a reading.

Keep it Small

The bigger the team, the more you have to ‘manage’ them.

Around 4-5 people as a core team generally works well.

Allocate specific tasks

Allocating tasks, supplier types or parts of your day gives each person a focus. They don’t need to be involved in every decision.

You want to avoid this anyway.

If people have contributed financially, allocate their kind gift to something specific they will be interested in helping you with, such as choosing musicians.

Always be grateful

Time is precious so it’s important to let those on your team know how grateful you are.

Thank them as part of a speech on the day.


Image Credits: Max Burnett

Studio M

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